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Origin of FEAR
If you believe Darwin’s theory, then you know we have evolved from animals. Fear has been protecting us since our animal life to save us from any threats from other animals etc. Even if you don’t believe Darwin theory, I hope you understand that Fear as an emotion has been built in as a protective mechanism. I also believe that like any other memory in our brain the fear got deep rooted in our brains from the beginning. Here is the biggest evolutionary gap between brain’s own evolution and how we moved ahead in life from animal age to information age. Brain still trying to act as if we have life threats from other animals. This is the reason even for non life threatening events it operates as life threatening manner – high heart beats, shallow breathing and sweating, etc.
Our brain is a very sincere organ and try to sincerely protect us. But we need to educate and tell our brain that we don’t have any life threatening situation ( unless it is really so). How do we educate our brain? There are many solutions to do this. I will cover these under the solution section.
So,hopefully by now you really understand that most of the FEARS are really just to protects from potential threats. And most of the not really life threatening. This protective mechanism is the one that is really not allowing us live the life we want to live and we continue to operate still in the same old animal life.
Now let us understand little more details on different types of FEARS.
Different types of FEARS
For the purpose of our context let us understand that there are differences between Phobia vs Fear vs etc. We can keep Phobias out of this discussion. Some of the phobias might not be really impacting your day to day living. For e.g phobia about Spiders etc. You can check here the Top 100 Phobias. http://www.fearof.net/. Very interesting list.
Coming to different types of FEARS. There might be hundreds and thousands of fears exist. We mostly deal with these Top 10 fears. http://listverse.com/2011/09/30/top-10-strong-human-fears/. Interestingly, you see fear in Failure being the top of the list. This is exactly the reason many people are scared to take decisions and try new things. What really happens when you try new thing? In the worst case you might fail. What happens when you fail – it creates pain. But your mind never wants to experience any pain and it always wants pleasure. Get comfortable with pain and when you live in the present moment you will be able to notice pain as normal experience. You will also realize that as part of the nature’s complimentary nature pain and pleasure are part of the deal. You can’t really avoid one thing and try to get other thing.
Going back to the list of fears. Some of the top 10 fears are as follows. Not in any order.
- Fear of Death
- Fear of Failure
- Fear of Disease
- Fear of Rejection
- Fear of possessions
- Fear of unknown
- Fear of losing freedom
- Fear of Loneliness
- Fear of Pain
- Fear of Criticism
Let’s closely analyze all these FEARS. What are you noticing in all these? For me ,all these looks like losing some thing. It can be any thing. I can be losing life, respect, security, money, safety, comfort, pleasure, etc. So fear is nothing but losing some thing. What happens when we lose some thing? It creates pain. Your brain does not want to experience pain. So the bottom line is we need to get comfortable with pain. But how can we get comfortable with Pain? And why should we get comfortable with pain? Isn’t life about happiness? This is where the secret lies. If you live life the way we life should be live then, you would automatically experience the bliss. But ,if you are just only focused on getting happiness then you would avoid all kinds of pains and fears and eventually you only experience very limited level of happiness.
I will talk about 25 + different solutions which will help you to romance with your fears.