As I said in the introduction EVERY THING we do mainly to FEEL GOOD or to AVOID PAIN.
We try to impress others to feel good. But you feel good for a different deep reason. When our self esteem is low then we try to fill our inner void/emptiness by impressing others. Basically filling the tanks with little and temporary happiness from others praise. We try to do this impression business every where…starts with parents, at home, in the society, to boss, etc.
Here are the reasons why this business is a LOSS MAKING one in the long term.
- This is a big addiction . And most probably you will continue with this addiction for entire life. This is most dangerous than alcohol and drugs. At least with these you know these are bad from beginning. But you may not even aware the damages of impressing business.
- It will kill your originality and destroy self respect and eventually all the inner strength
- It puts enormous amount of stress on you in continuous pursuit of impressing others
People with high self esteem don’t need to impress others. Their inner tanks are filled sufficiently.
Try to get out of this impressing business and start living for authentic self. Living for yourself will automatically fills your tank and you don’t need external pumping.