- “We have sacrificed our life to provide better life for kids”
- “I helped my friend a lot but he does not remember my help not loyal at all”
- “I have sacrificed many things to make my spouse happy but now I realize no use of it”
- “I have done so much for my company now they don’t care or recognize my efforts”, etc etc
I am sure you are very familiar with these “Sacrifices”. I honestly think there is nothing called sacrifice. If someone puts a gun on your head and ask you to do something, then it is kind of force but no one would have put a gun in the above examples.
We do everything mostly with an expectation/return. Of course, some acts can be based on “pure love/service”. But rare.
Parents would have sacrificed certain things to provide better life to kids. But in return they would have got love, some personal satisfaction, society recognition or something. If you would have helped your friend, you would have expected some “praise” or “affection” or something else. You would have worked very hard for your company expecting some promotion or recognition.
In my view, “Sacrifices” = “Investments”. We have made these investments (called sacrifices) and expected certain return. When the return is NOT matching, we project our efforts as “Sacrifice”.
By removing “Sacrifice” from our dictionary, we can make avoid lot of “emotional drama” from our lives. Accepting this “hard truth” may require real openness and boldness.